We disabled Windows firewall and AV compeltely from the security center (but Windows Defender firewall service was still on, greyed out so couldn't disable it)...and no luck.
I should add....we had Norton Firewall on the SQL server before and uninstalled it and then things stopped working...I disabled the 'Public firewall' portion of Windows Firewall and at least we were able to access it internally, but still having issues from the outside/VPN.